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3 NLP Techniques to Deal With a Fear of Failure

Fear of Failure

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NLP techniques to deal with a fear of failure aren’t literally taught inside of an NLP training. Designing them with a thorough knowledge of NLP, however, is easy.

I looked up some statistics:

  • 40% of Millennials experience a fear of failure.
  • 31% of Gen X
  • 35% of Boomers
  • Gen X and Boomers are more capable of dealing with a fear of failure than their younger counterparts.

A big reason why I felt it was important to create a series of NLP techniques to deal with a fear of failure is not just because of these statistics, but to also offer ways to quickly use Neuro-Linguistic Programming on the spot.

After all, when we are afraid, we aren’t operating as the best version of ourselves.

3 NLP Techniques to Deal with a Fear of Failure

NLP Technique for a Fear of Failure 1: Projection into Success


This is more a traditional way of using NLP Practitioner training, focusing on the outcome but applying it in a way that it lights up the brain in best-case scenario thinking, rather than worst-case. This is typical for athletes and top performers in any field.

Typically, what we do with worst-case scenario thinking is place our minds into a future moment, imagining what could go wrong. We experience the emotions that come with those thoughts.

How It Works

Watch yourself in a movie moving towards the event (dissociated, as an observer). This allows you not to experience the emotions and maintain a better, reality-tested point of view—an opportunity to think of preparation. Then, imagine the movie ending in a positive outcome instead, and when this occurs, float your awareness into this future instead (association) and experience this as real in your mind. You would see what you would see, hear what you would hear, and feel what you would feel.

NLP Technique to Deal with a Fear of Failure 2: The Power of Dissociation & Perspective of Time


In this technique, we don’t shy away from worst-case scenario thinking. But instead of experiencing a host of negative emotions, we reality test it more appropriately, and place it in the right perspective. In the long run, does it really matter?


Original video can be found here.

How It Works

Also here, you watch the actions taken towards the outcome from a non-emotional, dissociated point of view. This can be a powerful place of learning to see what led to the negative outcome, and with that a powerful lesson on how it could be avoided.

But instead of ending the movie with a negative outcome, you keep playing the movie. To the next day, the day after that, a week later, a month later, etc.

The reality is that when we fail, we move on. We will live. If anything, we have learned what we should do instead.

NLP Technique for a Fear of Failure 3: Solution-Focused Strategy


There are many powerful ways a person can combine positive psychology with Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Drawing inspiration from positive psychology, the third NLP technique shifts focus from potential failure to proactive solution-seeking, using elements of the WOOP (Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan) method. It offers an entirely different strategy that helps you prepare.


Video can be found here.

How It Works

Ask yourself the question: if this were to fail, what could I do? Or better yet, if I prepare differently, what could I do differently? And associate it into the moment of this action and this outcome instead.


It is important to understand that these are simple NLP techniques for a fear of failure that can be used on the spot. They aren’t meant to resolve glaring self-esteem or anxiety issues.

For this, I recommend:

  • NLP Core-Change Work (I teach this inside our Master Practitioner.)
  • Let an NLP Master Practitioner design a technique specific to your problem or installation point. A Practitioner may be challenged to work with more severe forms of self-esteem, trauma, anxiety, or feelings of inadequacy that often come with a fear of failure.
  • Other NLP Techniques for a fear of failure that may be useful include the Circle of Excellence, which can be viewed and learned here.

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